You might be feeling stuck in repeating conflicts, struggling to express what matters to you, or feeling misunderstood in important relationships.
I offer a space where we can slow things down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and find new ways of relating — with yourself and with others.
Counselling and relationship support in Wales online (and in person by arrangement).
I specialise in the patterns that make relationships difficult — whether within ourselves, between partners, or in groups.
Our world is rapidly changing and we need to find ways of engaging uncertainty and fear.
As we face finitude and crisis, I want us to be able to retain our ability to cooperate.
I want us to be able to hold love for one another, not succumbing to fear, othering, hatred and violence.For this we need a culture which supports peace. And that starts within our relationships to ourseves and others.
I offer three kinds of support:
Individual counselling
Explore personal struggles such as shame, conflict patterns, self-worth and emotional overwhelm. Learn More >
Relationship counselling
Support for couples or partners in other contexts (friendship, living, business….) navigating recurring conflicts or communication difficulties. Learn More >
Conflict facilitation
Structured support for groups or communities in tension. Learn More >
I believe in order to make anything we do in the direction of change sustainable (whether it is action to stop wrongs or constructive action to build the future we want to see), we need a supportive culture. The culture we are currently living in is supporting the destruction and depletion of our planet. It also supports violent ways of relating with ourselves and each other, perpetuating pain and suffering. Therefore, we need cultural change and that is what I am working towards.
Nonviolent Communication is a spiritual practice, as meditation can be called a spiritual practice. It’s about observing ourselves, other human beings, our relationships with them and communication with ourselves and them.
NVC puts connection first. This allows people to understand each other at the heart level, making the flow of gifts, of giving and receiving, natural.
With this NVC has a radical potential to bring about change, as it questions currently dominant cultural norms.
Peace starts with each and everyone of us right now.
Practice groups are a way of practicing and integrating what we know on a cognitive level. Together with others we can face the things we find challenging and be held in presence and compassion.
I offer regular open practice groups:
Upcoming open workshops:
Would you like to meet me to get to know me?
I will be at these upcoming events:
You can also find NVC events by me and other NVC trainers here: nvc-uk.com
I really appreciate what I experience as your relaxed, confident clarity with attention to detail. I’m remembering your conflict transformation skills, persistence and courage as I see it from when we were together at camp in the summer. I’m also seeing you as incredibly resourceful […] Annie Scott, NVC Trainer
I’m really enjoying participating in the practice group that Kirstin facilitates - it meets my need for challenge, discovery, growth, to learn, for stimulation and empathy - within an environment where I feel safe and at ease. I notice that Kirstin’s honesty and openness both by email and during the sessions encourages others to contribute likewise. Kirstin seems knowledgeable and confident, always providing constructive feedback on our practice of conflict facilitation which enables me to discover, grow, learn etc.. JoW, Conflict Facilitation Practice Group Participant
An Essay Exploring Developmental Capacities for Intimacy
In NVC spaces, impact sharing is often treated as inherently relational. But without differentiation, it can become a subtle form of emotional outsourcing that undermines intimacy. Read More ›
