Counselling and support for difficult relationships and emotional patterns


I help people become more able to stay in contact with themselves and others when something difficult is happening.

You might be finding yourself caught in patterns that are difficult to understand or change — in yourself, in your relationships, or both.

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I work with people who…

  • want to feel more at ease with themselves
  • find themselves reacting in ways they don’t understand or choose
  • struggle to know what they actually want or need
  • feel ashamed, “too much”, or not good enough
  • find themselves caught in painful patterns, alone or in relationships
  • want to express themselves more honestly without losing connection

I offer a space where we can slow things down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and find new ways of relating — with yourself and with others.

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Kirstin holding a mug and smiling while sitting in front of a laptop Online counselling across Wales and the UK ~ Most of my counselling takes place online. I also offer in-person sessions by arrangement.

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Hi, I’m Kirstin


I care deeply about how we meet each other when things are difficult.

My work is grounded in person-centred counselling and influenced by Nonviolent Communication. I’m interested in the feelings, needs and patterns that can make it difficult to understand ourselves, communicate honestly, or stay connected when something matters.

I don’t expect relationships to be easy or conflict-free. I believe that having enough space, attention and support can help us find more clarity and choice in how we respond.

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I offer three kinds of support, depending on what you’re looking for:

Individual counselling
For emotional patterns, shame, self-worth, conflict, relationships and feeling stuck.
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Relationship and conflict support
For people who want help with a difficult conversation, recurring conflict, or a relationship that has become hard to navigate. Not just couples, any relationship that matters.
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Groups, workshops and facilitation
For people wanting to learn, practise, or work through difficulties collectively — in groups, communities and organisations.
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Testimonials

I really appreciate what I experience as your relaxed, confident clarity with attention to detail. I’m remembering your conflict transformation skills, persistence and courage as I see it from when we were together at camp in the summer. I’m also seeing you as incredibly resourceful […] Annie Scott, NVC Trainer

I’m really enjoying participating in the practice group that Kirstin facilitates - it meets my need for challenge, discovery, growth, to learn, for stimulation and empathy - within an environment where I feel safe and at ease. I notice that Kirstin’s honesty and openness both by email and during the sessions encourages others to contribute likewise. Kirstin seems knowledgeable and confident, always providing constructive feedback on our practice of conflict facilitation which enables me to discover, grow, learn etc.. JoW, Conflict Facilitation Practice Group Participant

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