Counselling and support for difficult relationships and emotional patterns


You might be feeling stuck in repeating conflicts, struggling to express what matters to you, or feeling misunderstood in important relationships.

I offer a space where we can slow things down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and find new ways of relating — with yourself and with others.

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I work with people who experience…


  • having the same difficult conversations again and again
  • feeling misunderstood or not heard
  • dynamics escalating quickly, leaving you exhausted or helpless
  • feelings of shame, self-doubt or “not being good enough”/”too much”
  • struggling to express what you really feel or need
  • wanting to communicate more honestly without damaging relationships

Counselling and relationship support in Wales online (and in person by arrangement).

BACP Registered Member
Registered Member of the BACP.

I specialise in the patterns that make relationships difficult — whether within ourselves, between partners, or in groups.


Our world is rapidly changing and we need to find ways of engaging uncertainty and fear.
As we face finitude and crisis, I want us to be able to retain our ability to cooperate.
I want us to be able to hold love for one another, not succumbing to fear, othering, hatred and violence.

For this we need a culture which supports peace. And that starts within our relationships to ourseves and others.

Work With Me

I offer three kinds of support:

Individual counselling
Explore personal struggles such as shame, conflict patterns, self-worth and emotional overwhelm. Learn More >

Relationship counselling
Support for couples or partners in other contexts (friendship, living, business….) navigating recurring conflicts or communication difficulties. Learn More >

Conflict facilitation
Structured support for groups or communities in tension. Learn More >

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Relationship Counselling

For couples and pairs navigating tensions

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Individual Counselling

For emotional patterns, shame, self-worth, and relationships

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Communication & conflict

Support with difficult conversations

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Shame & self-worth

Understanding inner patterns

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Workshops & groups

Learning and practising together

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For communities & organisations

Facilitation and conflict support

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Why I do What I do


I care deeply about how we meet each other when things are difficult.

Again and again, I’ve seen how quickly connection can break down — how easily we feel misunderstood, hurt, or alone in moments that really matter. And I’ve also seen how powerful it can be when something shifts, even slightly, and there is more understanding, more honesty, or simply more space to be as we are.

This is what draws me to this work.

I’m interested in what happens underneath the surface — the feelings, needs and patterns that shape how we relate to ourselves and each other. Especially in moments of conflict, vulnerability or disconnection.

My work is influenced by Nonviolent Communication, which places connection and understanding at the centre. Not as an ideal to strive for, but as something that can be experienced, even in difficult situations, when there is enough support and attention.

I don’t expect relationships to be easy or conflict-free. But I do believe that with the right space, it is possible to move through difficulty in a way that leads to more clarity, connection and choice.

Practice Groups and Workshops

Peace starts with each and everyone of us right now.

Practice groups are a way of practicing and integrating what we know on a cognitive level. Together with others we can face the things we find challenging and be held in presence and compassion.

I offer regular open practice groups:

  • Conflict Practice Group: More information and sign up here.

Upcoming open workshops:

  • TBC

Find out more about groups and workshops

Upcoming Events

Would you like to meet me to get to know me?
I will be at these upcoming events:

You can also find NVC events by me and other NVC trainers here: nvc-uk.com

Testimonials

I really appreciate what I experience as your relaxed, confident clarity with attention to detail. I’m remembering your conflict transformation skills, persistence and courage as I see it from when we were together at camp in the summer. I’m also seeing you as incredibly resourceful […] Annie Scott, NVC Trainer

I’m really enjoying participating in the practice group that Kirstin facilitates - it meets my need for challenge, discovery, growth, to learn, for stimulation and empathy - within an environment where I feel safe and at ease. I notice that Kirstin’s honesty and openness both by email and during the sessions encourages others to contribute likewise. Kirstin seems knowledgeable and confident, always providing constructive feedback on our practice of conflict facilitation which enables me to discover, grow, learn etc.. JoW, Conflict Facilitation Practice Group Participant

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