Counselling and support for difficult relationships and emotional patterns


I help people become more able to stay in contact with themselves and others when something difficult is happening.

You might be finding yourself caught in patterns that are difficult to understand or change — in yourself, in your relationships, or both.

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I work with people who…

  • want to feel more at ease with themselves
  • find themselves reacting in ways they don’t really choose or understand
  • struggle to know what they actually want or need
  • feel responsible for other people’s feelings
  • find themselves caught in patterns they don’t understand or know how to change
  • want to be able to express themselves more honestly
  • long for greater closeness, but find connection difficult to sustain
  • keep having the same difficult conversations again and again
  • are trying to understand what happened in a difficult relationship, or how they want to relate differently in future

I offer a space where we can slow things down, understand what is happening beneath the surface, and find new ways of relating — with yourself and with others.

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Kirstin holding a mug and smiling while sitting in front of a laptop Online counselling across Wales and the UK ~ Most of my counselling takes place online. I also offer in-person sessions by arrangement.

Hi, I’m Kirstin


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I care deeply about how we meet each other when things are difficult.

Again and again, I’ve seen how quickly connection can break down — how easily we feel misunderstood, hurt, or alone in moments that really matter. And I’ve also seen how powerful it can be when something shifts, even slightly, and there is more understanding, more honesty, or simply more space to be as we are.

This is what draws me to this work.

I’m interested in what happens underneath the surface — the feelings, needs and patterns that shape how we relate to ourselves, to each other, and in groups. Especially in moments of conflict, vulnerability or disconnection.

My work is influenced by Nonviolent Communication, which places connection and understanding at the centre. Not as an ideal to strive for, but as something that can be experienced, even in difficult situations, when there is enough support and attention.

I don’t expect life or relationships to be easy or conflict-free. But I do believe that with the right space, we can move through difficulty in ways that bring greater clarity, honesty and choice — and sometimes, greater connection too.

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Across all of my work, I’m interested in what happens when we lose contact — with ourselves, with another person, or with a group — and in what helps us find our way back to greater understanding, honesty and connection.

I offer three kinds of support:

Individual counselling
For emotional patterns, shame, self-worth, conflict, relationships and feeling stuck.
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Relationship and conflict support
For people who want help with a difficult conversation, recurring conflict, or a relationship that has become hard to navigate. Not just couples, any relationship that matters.
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Groups, workshops and facilitation
For people wanting to learn, practise, or work through difficulties collectively — in groups, communities and organisations.
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Testimonials

I really appreciate what I experience as your relaxed, confident clarity with attention to detail. I’m remembering your conflict transformation skills, persistence and courage as I see it from when we were together at camp in the summer. I’m also seeing you as incredibly resourceful […] Annie Scott, NVC Trainer

I’m really enjoying participating in the practice group that Kirstin facilitates - it meets my need for challenge, discovery, growth, to learn, for stimulation and empathy - within an environment where I feel safe and at ease. I notice that Kirstin’s honesty and openness both by email and during the sessions encourages others to contribute likewise. Kirstin seems knowledgeable and confident, always providing constructive feedback on our practice of conflict facilitation which enables me to discover, grow, learn etc.. JoW, Conflict Facilitation Practice Group Participant

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