On self-care, loneliness, and the longing to be met by another person

We Cannot Manufacture Mutuality

Have you ever been told, “Now it’s time to turn towards yourself and take care of yourself,” and wanted to scream: “I’ve been doing that all my life!”? Sometimes what we need isn't another instruction to care for ourselves, but someone willing to turn towards us and be with what hurts. Yet we cannot make another person meet us there. Read More ›

An Essay on the need for grief and mourning

What we do not Mourn, We try to Fix

When something hurts, we often want to make something different. We want the other person to understand, the relationship to change, the injustice to end. But sometimes our attempts to fix what is outside of us are also attempts to escape what is happening inside us. What might become possible if, instead, we allowed ourselves to mourn what is? Read More ›

An Essay Exploring Developmental Capacities for Intimacy

Impact needs Differentiation

In NVC spaces, impact sharing is often treated as inherently relational. But without differentiation, it can become a subtle form of emotional outsourcing that undermines intimacy. Read More ›

How denial of responsibility keeps us stuck

The World we Choose

How we choose to see and give meaning shapes our ability to live happily and peacefully. While it may feel like we have no choice in our perceptions, embracing this responsibility is key to transforming our experience. Through Nonviolent Communication (NVC), we can remove the blocks to love and take up this responsibility lightly—opening ourselves to deeper connection, compassion, and the love we long for. This journey is not just about changing words, but about reshaping our thoughts and choosing to see a more beautiful and loving reality. Read More ›

It's Not About the Method

Finding meaning and direction in a way not governed by the mind, but attuned with the body. How needs express in sensations and offer us guidance. Read More ›