Blog Archive

On self-care, loneliness, and the longing to be met by another person › We Cannot Manufacture Mutuality

Have you ever been told, “Now it’s time to turn towards yourself and take care of yourself,” and wanted to scream: “I’ve been doing that all my life!”? Sometimes what we need isn't another instruction to care for ourselves, but someone willing to turn towards us and be with what hurts. Yet we cannot make another person meet us there. Read More ›

An Essay on the need for grief and mourning › What we do not Mourn, We try to Fix

When something hurts, we often want to make something different. We want the other person to understand, the relationship to change, the injustice to end. But sometimes our attempts to fix what is outside of us are also attempts to escape what is happening inside us. What might become possible if, instead, we allowed ourselves to mourn what is? Read More ›

An Essay Exploring Developmental Capacities for Intimacy › Impact needs Differentiation

In NVC spaces, impact sharing is often treated as inherently relational. But without differentiation, it can become a subtle form of emotional outsourcing that undermines intimacy. Read More ›

How denial of responsibility keeps us stuck › The World we Choose

How we choose to see and give meaning shapes our ability to live happily and peacefully. While it may feel like we have no choice in our perceptions, embracing this responsibility is key to transforming our experience. Through Nonviolent Communication (NVC), we can remove the blocks to love and take up this responsibility lightly—opening ourselves to deeper connection, compassion, and the love we long for. This journey is not just about changing words, but about reshaping our thoughts and choosing to see a more beautiful and loving reality. Read More ›

› It's Not About the Method

Finding meaning and direction in a way not governed by the mind, but attuned with the body. How needs express in sensations and offer us guidance. Read More ›

Skills for Living in Integrity › Tapping Into Your Inner Wisdom

Finding meaning and direction in a way not governed by the mind, but attuned with the body. How needs express in sensations and offer us guidance. Read More ›

Meeting ourselves and others with love › Getting out of Conflict

Conflict does not need to be part of a person's experience in life. Not just because time passes, but because we can change our perspective so much that it just doesn't make sense anymore. Read More ›

Obsessive Relationships

Conflict is an inevitable part of life and relationships. Learn about your strengths and growth edges in relation to conflict and difficult conversations. This course will run for 10 weeks. It is designed to accompany you in your personal learning journey. Read More ›

A process for accompanying yourself in a conflict situation › Mapping the Conflict Landscape

This process guides you through the steps of unfolding the landscape of a conflict. Discover what is important to you and learn from your experience. Read More ›

Recovering my vulnerability › Conquering Vulnerability with Grandiosity?

When do self-confidence and self-esteem become unhealthy and and begin to go into grandiosity? Getting closer to one of the defenses to cover up and suppress feeling vulnerable. Read More ›